Have you ever had to deal with haters? People who just seem to want to destroy you and everything you do?
You may or may not even know them but for whatever reason, they are intent on bringing you down.
Whenever we put ourselves out there, we open ourselves up to haters but is that a good enough reason to put us off doing what we love? No!
They want to get inside your head taking your energy away from focusing on the important stuff and force you to focus on pointless dramas instead. Don’t let it happen.
First, if you do know them- stay away from them. Block from your social media, emails, phone and just get on with your life.
If you don’t know them, just ignore. It will very soon die down if you don’t respond. There might be times when you feel like you want to defend yourself (if rumors are being spread for example) and that’s understandable but in that case, respond once then don’t look again.
- Quickly re-focus your mind thinking of 3 things that make you happy and visualizing your end goal. If you are struggling to re- focus, take a break and do something that lifts your mood- go for a walk, take a bath, go to the gym, read a book or whatever works for you.
- Keep on kicking a*s and doing what you do.
If you’re wondering if I have experienced this? Oh yes! Rumors, dramas, gossip, major criticism and even death threats!
But you know what? It doesn’t matter. It’s not important.
I used to let it get to me but now I don’t because I understand that it’s not about me. It’s about them.
It’s always about them and their insecurities.
There are 6 billion people in the world, don’t let one or two ruin your day. The important people won’t change their opinion of you based on what other people are saying.
These days, I feel sorry for the people who do this because no-one who is truly happy with their life would feel the need to go out and destroy somebody else.
I genuinely wish them well and hope that one day they will be happy. Life isn’t a competition… We can all make it!
STAY FOCUSED ON YOU AND YOUR END GOAL.
You were not born to be ordinary… You were born to shine!
Eirian Cohen is the founder of Northern Star Acting and co-producer of ESG Media, LTD. (If you want to really develop your craft, we are holding auditions now for our acting for film and television courses in Leeds and Sherburn in Elmet)