Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?

Hearing a “No” isn’t really that big a deal. But when we associate that “No” with incorrect interpretations, we immediately let the “No” defeat us.

This is a guest post by Anthony Meindl

You are!


The problem is that most of us don’t see ourselves that way. You see yourself through the dirty mirror of the left-brain’s MADDENING MIND MATRIX.

That is, when life gives us a big fat “No!” – which it will invariably do if you’re out in the world pursuing your dreams – we personalize the “No” in a way that triggers our left-brain’s default neural groove.

Hearing a “No” isn’t really that big a deal. But when we associate that “No” with incorrect interpretations in our left hemisphere (“I’m talentless.” “It’s never going to happen for me.” “I suck.”) we immediately let the “No” defeat us.

We stop moving forward. We move back to Baltimore. We reach for that Ben & Jerry’s CHUBBY HUBBY.

Or we personalize the defeats by beating ourselves up for the way we look or who we are — thinking that if we were someone else it would just be easier.

Well, first of all, it wouldn’t. (Unless maybe you’re BRAD PITT.)  And actually, he’s got his shit too. Everyone does!

So all we need to do is a bit of radical re-working of our brain’s neural wiring. It’s like Frankenstein’s monster. You have to start re-booting your neural groove so you don’t let defeats defeat you.

Why are we wired to the lies of our left-brain and not the truths of our hearts?
Remember, the next time you hear a “No,” it means nothing more than that. Actually it means that you’re in the game of life and every “No” you get brings you closer to a “Yes.”


Anthony Meindl is an award-winning writer, producer, director and actor whose first feature screenplay, THE WONDER GIRLS, was the Grand Prize Winning Feature Screenplay in the Slamdance Film Festival Screenplay Competition in 2007. Prior to this accomplishment, Meindl was responsible for the production of an array of award-winning projects. His background in acting, training, and performance has afforded him the opportunity to create what has become a thriving artist community in Los Angeles.

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