Turn Away From The Way You See Yourself

Written by Anthony Meindl

That is, unless you see yourself as the amazing, empowering, sexy, dynamic creator that you are.

And we rarely do.


Because we don’t see ourselves through a clear lens.

When I was in my 20’s I would tell myself I was stupid. I looked forward to the day when I would stop beating myself up, and have a new way of looking at myself, which I thought would occur in a few years.

I thought I’d outgrow my destructive thoughts once I was little older or more successful or more accomplished or more physically fit.

By my mid 20′s, calling myself “stupid” was replaced by my saying I was unattractive. By 30, I was a failure.

I would just replace old sayings with newer ones. So you’re “stupid” becomes you’re “unattractive” which becomes you’re “untalented” which becomes you’re “unlovable” which becomes you’re “a failure” which becomes you’re “too old.”

The insight comes when you realize that although we can’t escape those untruthful thoughts entirely – becoming aware of them running on auto-pilot or how they get triggered helps us to actually recover from them. You see that being caught in the web of the left brain’s highly functional dysfunction, is also the key to being liberated from it.

But first you have to know that you’re in it.

Science is proving that our reality is created not by reality itself but through the lens by which we choose to see our reality.

So clean those glasses. Get your eyes checked. Fix that stigmatism and get new contacts. Try to start seeing yourself not through the dirty, clouded, gray lens we normally see ourselves, but more accurately through how you choose to see other people and how others often see you.

“She’s beautiful,” you think. Well so are you. (Although both of you have a hard time believing it!)

“He’s talented.” Well so are you. (Although both of you have a hard time believing it!)

So ask a friend this week what they think of you and I bet they’ll use a number of adjectives you never would use to describe yourself. Just like how you probably describe other people you admire:  gutsy, brave, bold, exciting, inspiring, fun, clever, beautiful, loving, honest.

Now that’s a clear lens.

Anthony Meindl
is an award-winning writer, producer, director and actor whose first feature screenplay, THE WONDER GIRLS, was the Grand Prize Winning Feature Screenplay in the Slamdance Film Festival Screenplay Competition in 2007. Prior to this accomplishment, Meindl was responsible for the production of an array of award-winning projects. His background in acting, training, and performance has afforded him the opportunity to create what has become a thriving artist community in Los Angeles.

Check out Anthony’s book, At Left Brain, Right Turn

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