How Do I Get An Agent? Or Girlfriend? Or Job?… Just Decide

Written by Anthony Meindl

Will Smith actually said it. The secret to his success, was simply “deciding” that he wasn’t going to let anyone or anything stop him from having a career.

It sounds so simple. And in many ways it is.

We often find living our creative lives (and the accomplishing of our goals) to be a haphazard experience. This is partly due to our mind’s thousands of thoughts telling us we can’t have what we truly desire.

Our creating becomes compromised because instead of aligning ourselves with our powerful intentions, we instead get sidetracked by our thoughts that run counter to them.

Just because I have 70,000 thoughts a day, doesn’t mean most of them are real, beneficial or supportive. In fact, most aren’t. And as we listen to the damaging noise in our left brains, we create unseen roadblocks on the paths we really want to be walking. 

We neutralize our creative intentions by listening to the junk thoughts we tell ourselves.

“Just deciding” is an empowering way to change the dialogue in your head. Partly because it gives you a good kick in the ass to remind you what’s possible for you and that it’s up to you to get out there and start taking action.

But it’s also a confidence booster, because you begin to realize that once you decide, there comes a sense of effortlessness; a sense of knowing – that if it isn’t this agent, or this manager or this girlfriend or this boyfriend – that the right person you are meant to line up with (the person who’s really going to get you) is just around the corner. So you stop sweating the small stuff. You stop acting desperate. You stop having attachments. You let go.

So the real work is to become more mindful. Stop drinking the poison just because it’s offered to you by your lazy mind. The contrary thoughts you have about yourself are incompatible with the decision you made for yourself to “just decide.” So, ultimately, there’s no room for the two thoughts to co-exist.

So which do you want to think about. Which gives you more joy? More empowerment? More confidence?

Our creative journeys aren’t just about what you are creating in three-dimensional space. They are really the journeys that take place within our heads.

So next time you hear yourself saying something stupid, tell yourself, “I just decided. And there’s really no room for you too. You gotta go.”

“In my mind, I’ve always been an A-list Hollywood superstar. You just didn’t know yet.” ~ Will Smith


Anthony Meindl is an award-winning writer, producer, director and actor whose first feature screenplay, THE WONDER GIRLS, was the Grand Prize Winning Feature Screenplay in the Slamdance Film Festival Screenplay Competition in 2007. Prior to this accomplishment, Meindl was responsible for the production of an array of award-winning projects. His background in acting, training, and performance has afforded him the opportunity to create what has become a thriving artist community in Los Angeles.


Check out Anthony’s book, At Left Brain, Right Turn

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