What You’re Looking For, You Already Have

Written by Anthony Meindl

Often the experiences we are seeking in life show up – out there – out in the world.

They may be in the form of getting a new boyfriend, getting a promotion, going on a vacation, or booking a commercial.

But what they really represent is the feeling you are looking for (and actually already possess) inside you.

We think that getting “the thing” is what we need to finally be who we are.

In actuality, who we naturally are already is – ironically – how we get the things we desire.

Life is a circle. It’s not a horizontal line leading to somewhere out there in the future. It’s a journey of coming back to you. As adults we’re trying to get back to that core essence of who we were (and still are) as children. The part of us that is nonjudgmental, innocent, fully-expressed, free, emotionally connected, playful, committed, fearless.

And as children, we don’t wait for “events” to give us permission to express ourselves. We express ourselves fully moment-to-moment in each moment.

Just because we’ve grown up, or gained twenty pounds or have gray hair or seem to have lost our way, doesn’t mean we’ve lost that eternal part of us that is yearning to be expressed again. We just have to reconnect to it and let it show us how to play.

Homework: This week, give yourself the permission to express yourself in a way you normally shut down, control, edit or don’t allow. Just do it.

And remember. Child-like is not childish.

“Adults are obsolete children.” – Dr. Seuss


Anthony Meindl is an award-winning writer, producer, director and actor whose first feature screenplay, THE WONDER GIRLS, was the Grand Prize Winning Feature Screenplay in the Slamdance Film Festival Screenplay Competition in 2007. Prior to this accomplishment, Meindl was responsible for the production of an array of award-winning projects. His background in acting, training, and performance has afforded him the opportunity to create what has become a thriving artist community in Los Angeles.

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