If you’re not where you want to be yet, it’s because your mind hasn’t reached that place.
It works from the inside out. You’ll get there when, in your mind, you are already there, living it, breathing it, experiencing it.
When you think of yourself as that person, you will naturally start to take the right actions to get you there.
Most people mistakenly think that they’ll feel confident, successful and fulfilled when they have reached a certain level. But what happens if we get a break before we are psychologically ready for it is that we will self-sabotage.
That’s bonkers right? We want it so much, why would we throw it away? It makes no sense!
Of course we don’t do it consciously. It comes down to what we’ve been programmed to believe about what we are worthy of and where we fit in the world. If we step out of that place, it feels uncomfortable and our brain will do what it can to push us back down to a nice secure place again.
The kinds of things that can happen when you are in self sabotage mode are:
- Freak outs (thinking you can’t do it, feeling like quitting, feeling trapped, emotional, anxious).
- Making wrong decisions.
- Not taking great opportunities.
- Quitting completely.
- Blocking out with alcohol/drugs/food/exercise/binge watching TV/Facebook.
- Losing focus and skipping on to the next thing.
Here are some things you can do to work on yourself from the inside out to get to where you want to be:
You weren’t born to be ordinary, you were born to shine!
Eirian Cohen is the founder of Northern Star Acting and co-producer of ESG Media, LTD. (If you want to really develop your craft, we are holding auditions now for our acting for film and television courses in Leeds and Sherburn in Elmet)